San Bernardino, California
Provided by SCAN (Stop Child Abuse & Neglect), a program of the National Children's Advocacy Center in Huntsville, Alabama
Children's Assessment Center
• Know everything you can about your children's activities and their
friends. Monitor children's activities and participate with them. Don't
allow children to play alone in isolated areas.
• Teach your children about strangers AND to be aware of unusual
behavior in people they know. Teach them to listen to their feelings
and that it is okay to say no if any adults (including family
members) ask them to do something that makes them feel
• Teach your children to refuse anything from strangers, including money, gifts or rides. Know where new items come from.
• Teach your children how to safely answer the phone if they are at home alone such as stating the adult in the house is "unavailable" to come to the phone.
• Teach your children to keep a safe distance from strangers and not to give strangers directions for help, finding lost pets, etc. Adults need to get help from other adults.
• Teach children to use the buddy system when walking home from school, sports activities, etc. The age-old rule of there's safety in numbers is a primary safety precaution.
• Use secret codes with your children (for use to positively identify each other or to ask for help).
• Teach your children (including teens) to check first with you before going anywhere. Children need to let parents know where they are going,how they will get there, who will be going along with them, and when they will return home.
• Develop a family plan stressing where to meet if lost, when you are away from home. Do not have children meet you in the parking lot. Inside the store, shopping mall or amusement park are much safer places to meet. Teach them their phone number AND area code.
• Do not place your children's names on their clothing or on the outside of their possessions.
• Teach your children to say NO to anyone attempting to touch them on the part(s) of their bodies covered by a swimming suit.
• Teach your children to say NO, then GET AWAY, and TELL SOMEONE if a person bothers them.
• Join with other concerned parents to set up safety systems for your neighborhood.
• Teach your children about appropriate and inappropriate secrets and that some secrets have to be told if children and parents are to be kept safe.